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Before Your Kids Leave for College, Make Sure They Sign These Documents

With high school graduation behind us, and summer half over, many parents will soon watch their children become adults (at least in the eyes of the law) and leave home to pursue their education and career goals.

Turning 18, graduating high school, and moving out is a huge accomplishment. It also comes with some serious responsibilities that probably aren’t at the forefront of their (or your) mind right now. Once your children become legal adults, many areas that were once under your control are now solely up to them.

Here’s the big one: Before they turned 18, you had access to their financial accounts and had the power to make all of their healthcare decisions. After they turn 18, however, you’re no longer able to do either.

Before your kids head out into the world, you should discuss this with them and have them sign some key estate planning documents. One you do that, if they become incapacitated, you can easily access their medical records and financial accounts without having to go to court. Signing these documents will ensure that if they ever do need your help and guidance, you’ll have the legal authority to easily provide it.

Healthcare Directives (Medical Power of Attorney)

Medical power of attorney allows your child to name an agent (like you), who has the power to make healthcare decisions for them if they’re incapacitated and cannot make such decisions for themselves. For example, this authority allows you to make medical decisions if your child is knocked unconscious in a car accident or falls into a coma due to an illness.

That said, while medical power of attorney would give you authority to view your child’s medical records and make treatment decisions, that authority only goes into effect if the child becomes incapacitated. This means that unless your child is incapacitated, you do not have the authority to view their medical records, which are considered private under HIPAA.

HIPPA Authorization
Passed in 1996, the “Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act,” or HIPPA, requires health care providers and insurance companies to protect the privacy of a patient’s health records. Once your child becomes 18, no one—even parents—is legally authorized to access their medical records without prior written permission.

This is easily remedied by having your child sign a HIPPA authorization or release that grants you the authority to access their medical records. This can be critical if you ever need to make informed decisions about your child’s medical care.

Living Will
In many states, what we now refer to healthcare directives, include what was previously referred to as a living will. While medical power of attorney allows you to make medical decisions over your child’s ongoing healthcare if they’re incapacitated, a living will provides specific guidelines for how their medical care should be handled at the end of life.

A living will details how they want medical decisions made for them, not just who makes them. But such power only goes into effect if the child is terminally ill, which typically means they have less than six months to live. 

Your child may have certain wishes for their end-of-life care, so it’s important you discuss these decisions with them and have such provisions documented in their healthcare directive. For example, this section of the directive allows the child to decide when and if they want life support removed if they ever require it. Since these are literally life-or-death decisions, you should document them to ensure they’re properly carried out.

Durable Power of Attorney
In the event your child becomes incapacitated, you’ll also need a durable power of attorney to access his or her financial accounts. If you do not have a signed, financial durable power of attorney, you’ll have to go to court to get access.

While medical power of attorney will authorize you to make healthcare-related decisions on their behalf, durable power of attorney will give you the authority to manage their financial and legal matters, such as paying bills, applying for Social Security benefits, and/or managing banking and other financial accounts. Imagine if your child fell ill or had an accident and lived in an apartment and you could not legally deal with the lease on their behalf. 

If your child is getting ready to leave the nest to attend college, or pursue some other life goal, you can trust me as your Personal Family Lawyer® to help your child articulate and legally protect their healthcare and end-of-life wishes. With me in your corner, you’ll have peace of mind that your child will be well taken care of in the event of an unforeseen accident or illness.
As your Personal Family Lawyer®, I offer advice on wills, trusts, and numerous other estate planning vehicles. Using proprietary systems, such as our Family Wealth Inventory and Assessment™ and Family Wealth Planning Session™, I’ll carefully analyze your assets—both tangible and intangible—to help you come up with an estate planning solution that offers maximum protection for your family’s particular situation and budget. Contact me today to get started.


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